7 Tips on Becoming a Woman of Influence
By Tricia Carrier
Over 20 years ago, a friend gave me a book by Carol Kent, Becoming A Woman of Influence. That book opened my eyes to the purpose of intentionality and relational stewardship with the people in my path. Even the title of the book can be inspiring if you break it down: Becoming – as in a process, not immediately perfected; Influence – if used as a noun, it is the capacity to have an effect on the character, development or behavior of someone; or if used as a verb then impact, guide and shape might be considered its synonyms. What if we made it our life’s mission to intentionally continue in the process of becoming a woman who could have an impact on those around us? How do we do that? Keep reading to learn 7 practical tips for becoming a woman of influence in your sphere of influence:
Spend time alone with God: If we are going to influence women and inspire them to hunger and thirst for righteousness and living life God’s way, then we need to know what the Truth is first! Does that mean you have all the answers? No – but that means you stay connected to the Source who IS the answer.
See interruption as a ministry: If we intentionally interact with those around us then we will begin to understand that the person who needs a listening ear, a place to stay or a meal delivered isn’t an inconvenience but rather a divine appointment.
Ask intentional questions: As we become women of influence, we must learn the art of asking good questions. Ones that expose falsehood or reveal truth. Questions that help you better understand your Elizabeth or Mary and give you a window into her world. Be careful though – when they start asking you the hard questions back – be vulnerable and ready to share with them too. It’s not a one-sided process!
Lead with compassion: When we embrace becoming a woman of influence, it will take us beyond ourselves to see others the way Jesus sees them. Remember, you are not meeting with others because you are spiritually smug and have it all together. But, because you have been redeemed and abundantly forgiven. It is through that same lens that you must view those you are intentionally doing life with. Think of the countless ways you can tangibly show love to the people around you.
Ask for wisdom: James 1:5 says that the Lord freely gives wisdom to those who ask. Ask!!! Ask Him who He wants you to invest in at work, church, or wherever your sphere of influence is. You may be surprised at who He brings your way. Keep in mind that not everyone is going to be teachable and excited about you barging into their personal space. You are called to be willing. If they aren’t teachable or interested – don’t take it personal. And go find other Marys! And don’t forget to be mindful of asking people to pour into you as well. We need to be challenged with both Elizabeths and Marys in our lives.
Point to Jesus: Although you are coming alongside women, you are not their Savior. You are pointing them to the Savior. You don’t have all the answers – you are pointing them to the Word. You are both growing in your walk with the Lord - with each other.
Don’t get discouraged: Some seasons of life you will have more time than others. Work with the time and sphere that the Lord has given you. That means you have to learn the secret of being content with that “sphere”. Psalm 16:5, “Lord, you have assigned me my portion and my cup…” God fills our cup with our PORTION – the people in our sphere of influence. What is your relational stewardship to the portion God has given you? You are on a journey to the heart of God – invite someone on the journey with you.
For more information on how Jesus modeled mentoring with his disciples, we encourage you to read the book.
